I wrote the message I am about to share in January on social media, and I wanted to share it here with all of you as well. I think this is an important message for all.
Especially if you set some new year resolutions, and are already starting to feel yourself slipping back to old patterns. Maybe you already gave up on the resolution(s) entirely.
If so, this is for you!
“Instead of aspiring to be different this year, how about aspiring to be more authentic? More true to you?
Make this a year of self discovery. A year of growth. A year of letting go of old habits and patterns that are weighing you down, holding you back from what you are really capable of in this lifetime.
The fact that you have goals and desires that you are passionate about means that you are meant for more than your current experience, and you can have it. It’s not about implementing new habits and behaviours, at least not initially.
First, you’ve got to dig deep and uproot the foundation on which old dysfunctional and unproductive patterns and behaviours are built. Once those are brought to awareness, they can be adapted and replaced to move you closer in alignment with your true self.
The self that isn’t held back by fear, doubt, or insecurity. The self that is free to just BE. That sounds like something I want too 💖”
So if you set some intentions and goals for the new year and only made it a few weeks, know that it is not your fault.
You’re not lazy.
You’re not a failure.
It’s not that you have no willpower or that you are incapable of change.
The truth is that you have some limiting beliefs and unconscious patterns of behaviour that are holding you hostage. It’s not just about finding a strong enough “why” as others may tell you, at least not in the way it is often presented. Rather, it is about uncovering the true reason, the unconscious one, that keeps you returning to the same unproductive or unhealthy patterns you are trying so hard to kick.
If you can muster up the courage to look deep within yourself, you will find the real purpose for those behaviours. With that awareness comes power. Once you become aware, you can catch yourself in those moments with full understanding of what need you are really trying to meet in that moment. That, coupled with the traditional “why” for making a change, will help you to overcome the thing that has been holding you back once and for all.